Knowing and respecting my own mind! (Poem)

By Stanley Collymore

Here you are professing to love me yet at the same time, and

knowing precisely how I feel, trying so hard to convince

me that there’s no rational point in my safeguarding

my virginity prior to my chances of matrimony,

especially in this world in which we’re both

currently living and where morality, you

say, is now passé having had its day,

and consequently, is completely

deficient of all real meaning

or any chance of integrity.

And therefore it’s utterly pointless, you likewise

resolutely contend, my vainly trying to stem

and even unrewardingly pretend I can roll

back the passage of time for no honestly

useful end it would seem to you, to a

dark era where through a societally

recommended mixture of socially

manufactured ignorance and a

knowingly coercive as well

as an inconsiderately and

predictably adhered to

conduct of protecting,

or rather more fittingly using one’s female

chastity as a prized bargaining chip to

strategically advance one’s likely

marital prospects or personal

status, and concomitantly

procure an appreciated

inclination in society

and life generally,

did truly matter.

But now, realistically and thankfully so you avidly

declare, not any more. For things have changed

radically since those antiquated times and

quite beneficially, you add exultantly.

And that enterprise, and with it the

extremely ingrained notion of a

woman obligated to evidently

weaponised her distinctive

sexuality for community

advancement together

with the anticipated

accruement of personal

benefits to buttress her financial security

within the confines of matrimony are

no longer, you state emphatically,

a necessity in the 21^st Century.

Personally, that’s obviously your firm opinion lover-boy

and quite possibly is one that will both impress and

sway other women, I promptly concede, to think

and behave as you suggest, but alas, for you,

I am not one of them! And communicating

it brusquely and equally unambiguously

I’m already entirely aware of and for

some time now quite determinedly

rebuffed the identical arguments

that you’re now so vigorously

proselytizing. So if you don’t mind my saying so,

how I deal with and either choose to utilize or

not to accordingly. my individual sexuality

is frankly my own darn business and not

yours or that of anyone else; and with

that, from my own true perspective

and, furthermore, indisputably in

mind, is certainly a matter that

I most categorically consider

is entirely, and for all time,

unquestionably up to me.

© Stanley V. Collymore

11 September 2017.

Author’s Remarks:

Ever since Adam convinced Eve that it was she who persuaded him, and not himself in an act of his volition, to afford himself the fortuitous opportunity to fulsomely avail himself of her scrumptious apple and pleasurably by doing so individually awoke the dormant sexual passion within both of them that subsequently in physical terms thoroughly satisfied their heterosexual requirements, and from a religious perspective gave rise we’re biblically informed to humanity, subsequent generations of human beings have consistently been debating and even vehemently arguing about whose role it actually is to initiate sexual adventures between males and females as well as the modus operandi they should appropriately employ to do so. A consensus on which neither side to-date, it seems, is willingly prepared to universally compromise on this issue, and so this contentious debate with all its various disagreements and arguments rumble on.

Well, not everywhere I’m pleased to say. For in my ancestral homeland of Barbados a rather pragmatic approach has sensibly, intelligently, compatibly and effectively in the interests of all concerned maturely been adopted. And it’s along these practical lines: That a man chases a woman until at the right time of her own choosing she decisively decides to catch him. That way both participants in this love game can truthfully say that the invariably successful end result of this joint adventure of theirs is doubtlessly one in which their individual contributions can’t honestly be decried or underrated; and therefore there’s no need on the part of either of them to get embroiled in mutual antagonisms or unwarranted castigations. Thus guaranteeing for them, and as best as any human being can, a permanent window of pleasurable opportunity for those who’re willing to participate with composure and amorous determination in their joint sexual adventure.