The whimsical vagaries of Love!



By Stanley Collymore

Does anyone really know for sure what love is really

all about? We all clearly think that we do, but

how realistic is that assumption and what

are the conclusive grounds to prompt

such a conclusion much less any

absolute certainty, particularly

when collectively there isn’t

and has never been any

unanimity whatsoever

on how each and

everyone of us

individually

perceives

love to

be?

Consequently love means, as it has always done,

different things to everyone, an observation,

let’s be candid about that, which there’s

no getting away from however much

the individual concerned might be

tempted to either conceal or

even deny to themselves

this transparent fact.

To some people, therefore, love is all about

romantic inclinations, while others view

it as nothing more than a suitable

and convenient fig leaf to mask

their solitary purpose, which

is to fruitfully indulge in

multiple assignations

or unconstrained

acts of sexual

coition.

But there are other by-products of it that one can

assertively state or unchallengeably name, like

fashioning purported loving relationships

purely for companionship sake; or

perhaps keenly partake in that time

honoured and traditional pastime,

so beloved of our British royalty

and aristocracy, of marrying

not necessarily for love

but, most imperative

for them, to preserve their

profoundly cherished,

naturally perceived

and, of course,

infinitely

precious

blood

line.

Pedigree notions of exclusivity, flimsily

but all the same expectantly based on

outrageous fantasies of genetic

superiority, which calculatingly,

quite arbitrarily and proscriptively

banish all perceived or any exploratory

disposition towards emotional entanglements

much less so the encroachment of genuine love;

the adherents of such points of view even

now in the 21^st Century delusionally

convincing themselves that what

personal relationships they

ultimately need to form

must, by virtue of

the divine status hereditarily

endowed on and entrusted to

them by God himself, be

largely determined by

higher considerations

and not simply

earthly ones

alone!

These bizarre vicissitudes of life aside though

love does occasionally, if permitted to,

manifest itself in more conventional,

appealing and private ways that

quite often can and do

invariably turn out to be the mainstay of

exceptionally significant relationships that

fruitfully harvest the good in each of those

fortunate recipients while at the same

time avidly jettisoning the negative

aspects within them, which

these individuals consciously know were

these allowed to exist would eventually

in terms of their love for each other,

any prospect of a meaningful and

long-term future together, or

their general happiness

be their undoubted

Nemesis.

So however you perceive love to be; what you

personally expect to beneficially derive from it or

even entrust to it yourself if as expectantly you

meet what you consider to be not only the

right person to fall in love with but also

to freely and willingly share your life

with too, do remember that to be committedly

in love is as diametrically divergent from

wishful thinking on matters amorous

as anything ever could be; has to be

worked at assiduously in every

way, and shouldn’t be confused

or confine itself only to the

propagandistic, banal or

commercial importunities

corporately churned out

either round about or

actually on Saint

Valentine’s

Day!

© Stanley V. Collymore

9 February 2014.

Observation:

They say that love is in the eye of the beholder; curiously there’s no mention of lust which features more prominently than love in many, and arguably so the overwhelming majority of personal relationships that are either consensually or otherwise engaged in within our contemporary world. So where precisely, biologically speaking, is lust located?

Make the most of your Valentine’s Day and the opportunities, either handed to you on a platter or concertedly devised by you, that that day presents. However caution is advised and a few words of warning to boot in your shell-like! Namely, that whether you partake of these offered opportunities maturely or for that matter childishly is you affair, literally speaking, just as long as you’re prepared to accept the consequences that stem from your actions/activities on that day and accordingly deal effectively and accountably with them, and not expect the responsible members of your society or community come to that to be left with picking up the customary burdensome, financial tab for your casual and societally detrimental indiscretions!