The greatest stimulus to self-confidence is honesty with one’s self!



By Stanley Collymore

Though you assume the right to moan often but

usually in private about the difficulties you

regularly face the stark and challenging

truth is that you seldom, if ever, like

so many others do rarely bother to

scrutinize the possibilities of why these

difficulties are there in the first place

and, as such, thoughtlessly rule out

the legitimate likelihood that you

and your activities might very

well be the magnet if not the

material catalyst of many of

your pressing concerns.

And so it isn’t that

difficult to fully

appreciate

why.

Home truths like awkward relations whom you

don’t much care for but quite reluctantly,

embarrassingly and perhaps even

painfully are forced to grudgingly recognize

as very much a part of you, although you

wouldn’t contemplate let alone freely

make a point of advertising that fact,

are nevertheless things that you

simply can’t or shouldn’t try

to wistfully wish away

and pretend they

don’t exist.

For to persistently live a significant lie

long-term, while secretly dreading the

prospect of exposure, carries with it

on being eventually found out

the far greater risks of ultimate

humiliation and certain rejection

at the hands of those that you

either foolishly or else

naively endeavour

at all costs to

please.

So why not aspire instead to be your true self

at all times, and rather than timidly or

even sycophantically seeking to

please others who you think you must impress;

pandering continuously to their every whim

and fancy while inwardly deliberately

ignoring or failing to heed the signs

that on their part their loyalty to

you, if such a commodity

does exist, is ephemeral at best and

without any bonds of consistency;

that what in effect you should be

doing is to impress upon everyone,

whether they genuinely care for

you or not, to either accept or

reject you as you are, warts

and all, rather than willingly

being complicit with any

of them in what, after

all, could very well

presage your very

own inevitable

and perhaps

long-term

ruin!

© Stanley V. Collymore

3 January 2014.

Observation:

The herd instinct may very well be quite suitable for some species of animals; as human beings however and supposedly at the apex of this particular food chain I don’t think that it’s unreasonable to expect something much more imaginative from homo sapiens. After all, that’s why we’re individually endowed with our own brain. So why not use yours?